• Destiny Bez

What to Say to the People You’ve Always Wanted to Talk To

What do you say to the person you’ve waited so long to have a conversation with when you have a limited amount of time?

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Everyone can name a person they’ve been dying to get the opportunity to talk to. It could be an entertainment idol, a career mentor, or an inspirational figure. We don’t often get the chance to talk with the people we’ve always wanted to—until Aeiway. But, what do you say to the person you’ve waited so long to have a conversation with when you have a limited amount of time?


Keep reading to see the Top 5 Questions to Ask Your Idols. With these questions, you can maximize your time and get the most out of your conversations, interviews, and chats with the people you want to talk to most.







Top 5 Questions to Ask Your Idols (and Why)

1. What inspired you to do ‘X’?

Ask your idols about what inspires them, what gets them out of bed in the morning, or what keeps them going to get insight on their motivations. Whether the answer is achieving certain goals or simply making money, you’ll get the opportunity to learn what makes the person you want to talk to click.

2. Where do you feel like your “big break” came from?

A lot of “overnight” success stories actually took years of relentless hard work and sacrifices. Ask this question to learn about the work it took to reach specific goals and levels of success. If you hear something useful, repeat those steps for yourself.

3. What was your biggest roadblock or challenge?

We all face battles (seen and unseen) that seem to momentarily hold us back from accomplishing our goals. Ask about professional and personal challenges to learn about overcoming them.

4. How do you feel you’ve changed since ‘X’?

Pick a defining and major event in your idol or mentor’s life and ask how it changed them. How did they move forward? What growth did they gain from it? Hearing this kind of advice just may help you to avoid or move past similar obstacles more easily.

5. Where do you see yourself in ‘X amount of time’?

No one has done everything they want to do in life. Successful individuals continue to be successful by constantly setting new goals for themselves––then going out and knocking them down. Ask about future plans to learn how the person you look up to approach goal-setting, step-by-step planning, and how they define achievement.


Now that you have at least 5 questions to ask the person you really want to talk to, remember these 5 quick tips for positive communication:

  • Be polite! This should be a no-brainer. If you’re not, chances are your conversation will be cut short.

  • Listen closely and read messages twice. Take notes if you have to, because nothing’s worse than forgetting that gem piece of advice you heard earlier.

  • For voice and video calls, be aware of background noise.

  • Watch your mouth. Cursing around friends = okay. Cursing around people you hope to connect with = unprofessional.

  • Don’t waste space. Time is money (sometimes very literally). Not only because you’re paying for these conversations, it’s also important to be aware of other’s time and other commitments they likely have.